Frequently Asked Questions about Mediation

Can you provide me with the name of a good mediator?

Membership and accreditation in NJAPM will help assure you that your mediator has the education, experience, skills and ethical standards necessary to handle your dispute. Our accredited professional mediators can be found here. Other than providing this list, we do not recommend individual mediators.

If I use a mediator, do I also need an attorney?

In most mediated settlements, it is in each party’s interest to seek independent legal counsel. The role of the attorney will be generally limited to providing legal advice, reviewing the agreements of the parties, and preparing any documents to be filed with a court.

If I need an attorney anyway, why shouldn’t I get an attorney for a mediator?

While many of NJAPM’s accredited mediators are attorneys, many are not. The role of the mediator and an attorney are very different. The mediator functions as a neutral that facilitates an agreement between the parties. By law in New Jersey, an attorney may represent only one party to a dispute.

The training to become an attorney and a mediator are very different. Mediators are professionals trained to act as neutrals and help the parties reach agreements themselves. In selecting a mediator it is important that the mediator have the necessary training and experience in mediation.

How long does mediation take?

The time varies widely by the type of matter being mediated and other factors. A divorce mediation could take from eight to fifteen or more hours depending on the commitment of the divorcing couple to the process and the complexity of the parenting and financial issues.

There is a lot of anger between me and my (spouse, partner, boss, client, etc.) Can mediation still be successful?

Yes. Mediators are trained to focus the parties on solutions for the future rather than past events. As long as the parties put aside their anger during mediation sessions and agree that a solution that they reach voluntarily is better than an adversarial process where a third party will decide, then mediation can be successful.

I have been a party to a mediation conducted by a member of NJAPM and am dissatisfied with the mediator’s performance. How can I file a complaint?

If you believe that your mediator acted unethically or incompetently, then you can file a complaint with the NJAPM Ethics Review Board by e-mail at Your complaint should be addressed to NJAPM Mediator Ethics Review Board c/o our Association office. Your complaint will be handled in confidence.